tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14881033.post1168960082058217146..comments2023-10-15T09:40:24.820-04:00Comments on A Simple Walk: To Love or To Be LovedKatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03112133327097954479noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14881033.post-53998899538691045372008-03-19T23:38:00.000-04:002008-03-19T23:38:00.000-04:00Kate,Thanks so much for stopping by my blog today ...Kate,<BR/>Thanks so much for stopping by my blog today and leaving a comment. To answer your question about how do I train them to put them back....it is a process. <BR/><BR/>When they were younger they could not get the scissors out without assistance and they could not reach the basket I used. <BR/><BR/>Now that they are older and we have tried to teach responsibility for putting away items but we still have a hard time and find the scissors other places. <BR/><BR/>What we have done lately, and it has worked pretty good, is we fine them an amount for not putting things back where they belong. At this stage they do not want to have to pay someone else their hard earned money. It teaches them that if they have a library book that is overdue...we will not pay the fine...it teaches them to become responsible. <BR/><BR/>It may sound silly but I thought of it when I heard my brother fines his teens when they do not bring the trash cans back up to the garage after trash day. He said it does not matter whose day it is....someone in the home (three kids, two older girls and one sixth grade boy)needs to bring the cans back up on trash day, regardless of whose day it is. It teaches them to be unselfish and to care for one another which at times is hard for siblings.<BR/><BR/>I remember Barbara Mandrell, the country singer, talking about how if her children did not pick up their rooms or they left things around the house she would go each day with a black garbage bag and retrieve each item and give it away or throw away. I have heard others keeping it in the garage for a week or so until the child was looking for it. <BR/><BR/>I have wanted to do that but money was tight and we did not have unlimited resources like the two people that I read who did this and I just could not bear to throw things out like tennis shoes etc. <BR/><BR/>However, I have taken things and put them away and when they come looking for them they have had to wait a certain amount of time before getting them back. <BR/><BR/>They learn pretty quickly to pick up....but once they become teenagers....it starts all over again. Hate to say it but they are just big preschoolers at times when it comes to cleaning their rooms. It passes but boy is it frustrating!<BR/>Blessings!<BR/>VickieVickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03325240260667284256noreply@blogger.com